Most couples wish to formally thank the officiating pastor for his/her part in the wedding. If so, we have found in our conversations with other churches that an honorarium in the range of $200 is fairly typical. Also, we encourage the engaged couple to initiate a conversation with the pastor about their desires and expectations for him/her attending the various pre-wedding venues (e.g., rehearsal, rehearsal dinner) to make sure that everyone is on the same page.